Thursday, October 1, 2009

Recalibrating Havdala Consciousness Part II

Continued as overheard in the Shabbos Shuva Drasha:

I received a kunteres in the mail recently about Rav Kanarek z"l the Rosh Yeshiva of Peakskill Yeshiva. He was a Kaminetzer talmid and the kunteres relates many amazing anecdotes about Rav Boruch Ber Lebowitz. Each one is interesting in it's own right but they are even more fascinating and enlightening when considered together because they illustrate how acute Rav Boruch Ber's sense of אתה בחרתנו מכל העמים was.

Story #1: As is the case in many communities Kaminetz had it's share of mentally unstable Jews who roamed the streets and were not institutionalized. One such Jew, the type who never has a problem finding a seat in a crowded Shul because, owing to his infrequent bathing, people always give him a very wide berth, lived in Kaminetz. Besides being malodorous he was repulsively unkempt and invariably dressed in filthy off-putting rags. Still, whenever this Jew would come to Bais Medrash, Rav Boruch Ber made a bee-line over to him, put his arm around him, conversed with him and led him to a comfortable spot near the wood burning oven that was the sole source of heat.
Story#2. Rav Kanarek was privileged to be among the 2 bokhurim who would escort Rav Boruch Ber from his home to his Yeshiva daily. They would loop their arms into his and lead him through the streets of Kaminetz. Not because he was too old and infirm to get there under his own power but because he kept his eyes tightly shut whenever out on the street lest he behold a non-Jew. He said that seeing a non-Jew affected his Qedusha in a way that made Torah study difficult for him the entire balance of the day. One day as he was leaving his home he was accosted by his new non-Jewish letter carrier who extended his hand in greeting to the Rosh Yeshiva. Nu, דרך ארץ trumps all so Rav Boruch Ber clasped his hand. But for the rest of that day Rav Boruch Ber interrupted his study every few minutes to go lave his hands.

Story #3: Rav Boruch Ber was not known for his worldliness and lived in the era when the great World War II leaders were coming into their own. In particular FDR enjoyed almost Messianic status among much of the US electorate. As American Jews of the time put it: " א איד לייבט אין דריי וועלטען: דער וועלט, יענע ועלט און
רוזע-וועלט "= A Jew must live in three worlds, this world, the world -to-come and Roose-VELT! Yet one November in twenties (thirties???) he asked some bokhurim "Who won the US election, Hoover or Roosevelt?" The bokhurim were perplexed as to why, all of a sudden, their Rebbe had taken so keen an interest in current events. He answered: "I make a brakha every morning thanking HaShem שלא עשני גוי = 'for not having created me a gentile'. Do you think that when I pronounce that brakha I'm thinking about a drunken Ivan wallowing in the gutter? No! I want to have a mental picture of the most esteemed non-Jew in the world. The supreme powerful leader of the Western world...the president of the USA! And about HIM I want to thank the Aibershter שלא עשני גוי !"

The same hand that was not repulsed by the most repulsive Jew was "shaken" for having shaken the hand of a benign non-Jew. The same heart that somehow saw through the schizophrenia and grime of the local Meshugerner to be smitten by the Jewishness lurking beneath was not beguiled by the wealth , popularity and power of the Roose-VELT!

Our sense of Qedusha-Havdala ought not to lead us to revile non-Jews. We must first learn to appreciate humanity in all its beauty, pathos and genius and only then take the quantum leap of appreciating the ineffable greatness of the ben u'bas yisrael. as Rebee Aqiva put it:
חביב אדם שנברא בצלם; חיבה יתרה נודעת לו שנברא בצלם, שנאמר "כי בצלם אלוהים, עשה את האדם" (בראשית ט,ו). חביבין ישראל שנקראו בנים למקום; חיבה יתרה נודעת להם שנקראו בנים למקום, שנאמר "בנים אתם, לה' אלוהיכם" (דברים יד,א). חביבין ישראל, שניתן להם כלי שבו נברא העולם; חיבה יתרה נודעת להם שניתן להם כדי שבו נברא העולם, שנאמר "כי לקח טוב, נתתי לכם; תורתי, אל תעזובו" (משלי ד,ב).


After the drasha, while klopping ahl khets on Yom haQodosh something occurred to me. Maybe this corruption of Havdala consciousness is yet another iteration of the serious sin of Khlul haShem. After all, the passage of our liturgy that begins with אתה בחרתנו מכל העמים culminates with ושמך הגדול והקדוש עלינו קראת in other words identifying HaShem's Name with Bnei Yisrael is the logical conclusion of Jewish chosenness and uniqueness. All who would void Jews of any innate difference or holiness vis a vis the nations of the earth altogether or even partially void them of same by underestimating the great and exalted worth of the balance of humanity has, in essence, not just failed a Havdala Concsiousness litmus test but has desecrated THE Name.
Qedusha-Havdala have you recalibrated YOURS today...hmmm???

29 comments:

Lion's Skin said...

Your writing is really good. I find it hard to believe that you are/were a yeshiva bokhur. Keep up the sincere blogging. May you be blessed that the truth that emanates from your blog enlightens the jblogoshpere. Thanks for sharing the inspirational stories.

Tzipporah said...

Meh.

As someone with non-Jewish family members, I find the "handwashing" story really appalling.

I know, I know, he was just special and "sensitive." Or, maybe, racist and OCD.

The Bray of Fundie said...

FWIW I approached the Rav after the drasha and asked him how to square the hand-washing and apparent revulsion with the Rav Chaim Vital mandate to love EVERYONE not just fellow Jews.

He said that it's a long discussion and didn't want to miss shekia and shalashudos but I hope to get an appointment with him during or after Sukkos.

When I have more info I'll bl"n post a part three

The Bray of Fundie said...

LS-

Shkoyakh for the kind words and blessings.

Assuming that my whole blogging obsession isn't one long sin-exercise (a highly debateable point) may those blessings come ture.

The Bray of Fundie said...

BTW LadyBird I should put up a disclaimer before posts like these. For you they constitute onoas devarim=hurtful "cheating" speech. A textbook example AAMOF.

Not Brisk said...

Excellent post.

JS said...

I found story #2 to be revolting and don't think it exemplifies any middah we should be emulating. Even if one wants to argue it shows the great rav's kedusha and sensitivity (doubtful) it STILL conveys a horrible message to the rest of us who "grope in the dark" and haven't attained that "level" (if such a level even exists).

I think havdala is a core concept of Judaism. There's simply no way to deny that as far as I can tell. However, I was hoping for you to relate a useful approach to this issue instead of "more of the same." Surely there's a way to be a Jew who knows he's a Jew without being a racist or even impolite.

The Bray of Fundie said...

he was racist as IMO using any fair definition of the word, every Havdala- conscious Jew must be. He was NOT impolite. He shook the postmans hand and would no doubt do it again in spite of the fact tha tit disturbed his learning.

The Bray of Fundie said...

JS-

Why is this more of the same? While you may have practiced it intuitively were you aware of the Rav Chaim Vital about loving everyone? I was not. To me it arrived with the *WHOOSH* of a pneumatic revelation.

Anonymous said...

um nbray-see many poskim (bris yaakob on shulchan aruch harav iirc bring the whole slew) who show that in teh original sharei kedusha that r cv is nowhere to be found....

The Bray of Fundie said...

chapter and verse please

Anonymous said...

not with my seforim ...the sefer (minchas yaakov or bris yaakov dont remember) is a pirush ala mishna berurah on sa harav chelek choshen mishpat when the rav discusses onaas devarim the pirush gets into non jews...

The Bray of Fundie said...

publisehd by KeHoT?

Anonymous said...

nope-hes a klausenberg dayan in e"y

JS said...

It's more of the same because it falls into standard stereotypes of what "Chosen People" means - Jews see it as we are great, they are horrible and non-Jews see it as Jews are haughty and elitist and plot against us.

To me, havdala doesn't have anything to do with one being better and another being worse. It's just different and separate. Look at the bracha for havdala. kodesh and chol, light and darkness, Israel and the nations, the 7th day from the other 6 days of creation. I don't think any part of the pair is better than the other part of the pair. Both have their functions and purpose.

If everything was kodesh for example, it would make life completely unbearable (if we could even survive at all). Imagine all food and items being hekdeish, for example. Or light and darkness - imagine if everything was always illuminated. How could we sleep? How could we have privacy? Or imagine Shabbat all the time. We'd never be able to work or attend to personal needs.

Same with Israel and the other nations. Both are necessary and both have a role to play. Havdala is recognizing the role each play, IMO. It's NOT washing your hand all day after touching a non-Jew. It's embodied in "anu ameilim v'heim ameilim" and the like (though this also takes on a negative tone). I think the prayer isn't "Jews are great, non-Jews stink." Instead, it's Jews have this role to fulfill and non-Jews have a different one.

See also, tahor and tamei (both are necessary at different stages of life, for example). Men and women plus tons of other examples.

The Bray of Fundie said...

OTC, light is better than darkness as darkness is associated wit hnon-existence or at least pre-existence as Sholom HaMeleekh put it :

יג וְרָאִיתִי אָנִי, שֶׁיֵּשׁ יִתְרוֹן לַחָכְמָה מִן-הַסִּכְלוּת--כִּיתְרוֹן הָאוֹר, מִן-הַחֹשֶׁךְ.

13 Then I saw that wisdom excelleth folly, as far as light excelleth darkness

Will you argue and say that wisdom does not excel over folly? That they play seperate but equal roles?

Shabbos is superior to the other days. It is infused with holiness and blessing above and beyond the khol (the very etymolygy of the word comnnotes a void and emptiness) . Jewish eschatology and liturgy (Birkat haMazon) posit the Messianic era, one SUPERIOR to our own, as being "a Day that is completely Shabbos".

Jews ARE superior to non-Jews we are chosen, our language is exalted, and we are sanctified by our Mitzvot. Of course it is the intuitive resentment of this truth that is the root of all anti-Semitism but it is no less true for that uncomfortable fact.

The Bray of Fundie said...

The main point of these two posts was that in order to understand that relative superiority it is essential that we NOT underestimate or dehumanize non-Jews, just that we superhumanize Jews.

The Bray of Fundie said...

pending results of researching anonymous' sources I reserve the right to change my mind and recalibrate again.

JS said...

Again, imo, it has nothing to do with superior/inferior or "superhumanizing" or what have you.

Treating a Jew better than a non-Jew, has more to do with the fact that he's your brother than any havdala issue.

The Bray of Fundie said...

havdala between kerovim and rekhokim is also a s'if of havdala consciousness.

The Bray of Fundie said...

I too have trouble with "superhumanizing" on a visceral non-intellectual level...and so I have settled for "supersizing" on a visceral level.

Couldn't resist that one.

E. Fink said...

JS, BOF:

I think JS is correct. Havdala only indicates separation NOT superiority.

This was discussed at least once on the "algemeiner" blog.

And if you want to tyna that the greatest kedusha potential lies within the most muvdal (ie klal yisrael) I maintain that potential does not determine superiority.

The Bray of Fundie said...

what about my questions from the similes? Is light not superior to darkness? Is Shabbos not superior to Wednesday? or for that matter, to Yom Tov?

How do you undertsand v'romatonu m'kol Haleshonos?

The Bray of Fundie said...

High is higher than lower.

Tzipporah said...

Havdala only indicates separation NOT superiority.

Exactly. Which is better, apples or oranges?

Anonymous said...

Just wondering, why are you so intent on believing that you are superior to non-Jews? What do you have invested in this concept? Do you need it to pump your own personal ego or something?

There is no proof to what you espouse. No data. And no history of Jews acting any more pious or laudatory than anyone else. Good people are good people. But all people are just people.

Don't tell me that Bernie Madoff is a superior human being to the man Ghandi was. I mean, even you can't possibly believe that in Hashem's eyes, this would be the case.

The Bray of Fundie said...

You are free to psychoanalyze me. But if you want my own analysis it's because lacking this consciousness of superiority/ heightened Qedusha it is impossible to function as a fully relized Jew.

The Bray of Fundie said...

LadyBird-

some superiorities are subjective others are objective. An artist might view oranges and apples as seperate but equal while a nutritionist might have a very frim sense of hierarchy rooted in empirical nutritional value.

in any event had our liturgy for saturday nights mad the simile "Who seperates between apple and orange, between red and blue, between israle and the nations" i might agrre with you and rabbi Fink. but the similes are not of this type.

The Bray of Fundie said...

Don't tell me that Bernie Madoff is a superior human being to the man Ghandi was. I mean, even you can't possibly believe that in Hashem's eyes, this would be the case.

A very troubling question. IIRC Hanah Arendt posed it to disparage X-tianity when she posited that the catholic preist who delivered last rites to Eichmann before his execution no doubt belived that Eichmann would be "saved" while his victims and accusers, rejectors of the Nazarene, were all damned to eternal hellfire.

The short answer is that there is something deep within Madoff that I should love, not admire and emulate, more than Gahndii and that Madoff blew it because endowed with a Yiddisha neshame he potentially could have been greater than Gahndii. But no he is an inferior human being by far to Gahndii.

Not so a benign blue collar Jewsih plumber from Boro park. he can make the shelo asani goy in the morning with Gahndii in mind.